So happy to hear you got an appt for the evaluation. Regarding your son's heartfelt reaction, I think he is in a catch 22 and unfortunately, I see it alot at school with students who have the same impulsive disruptive behavior.
A lot of times when they lash out and you take some time to get to the root of the matter it is because they actually want so and so to be their friend.
The catch 22 comes in when you realize that they really can't control the impulse to do almost anything to get those other kids to pay attention to them.
I don't do any type of special ed or aid work, I am simply a recess monitor who watches ALL the kids and hugs most of them once a day and listens to their woes.
So I can't give you any advice on what to do to make it better short term. I think the long term is going to lie in that psych evaluation, but for now, either you really have to be able to stress self control to him and trust that he will follow through or you have to remove him from the situation that provokes him because he probably very simply doesn't have the ability to stop it from escalating to the violent behavior.
