Wow, each of you has provided me great insight and food for thought.
HowlerKarma � great food for thought about skills such as note-taking/organizational. I will keep that on my radar to work on over the next few years if that is not something worked on in their classrooms as they get into the upper elementary grades.
MasterofNone- although you probably didn�t know your statement would be profound (to me), it is. �if school were about maximizing academics, they might need to work harder.� Re-framing all of my concerns under the context that school is NOT about maximizing academics takes a huge load off of my �mom heart�. Also, you are absolutely correct that they are learning. They are actually learning a lot in the non-core areas.
Polarbear- You said � I think it's often easy to fall into the mindset that high ability means we must push (as parents) our children to achieve more and sooner simply because they *can*.� I am/was falling into this mindset and frankly, I�m starting to realize that (for the most part) it is NOT time and energy well spent. I need to step back and relax  I love the idea of working with a group of kids from their class during the school. I love math so that would be a great fit.
MK13- I love your idea about driving decisions and placements based on what makes them happy (seems simple now that I hear it from you).
Thank to each of you for taking the time to post.
