I'm always stumped when teachers seem to put up walls to children realizing success - you'd think that your ds teachers would be proud of him and *want* him to succeed in advanced classes instead of insisting he was going to fall on his face.
We didn't necessarily run into this all at once at the end of the school year but we did run into this a lot at ds' previous school. What we did depended on what the situation was - when accommodations were questioned I simply restated why ds had the accommodation and told the teacher he needed them and reminded them it was in his IEP. When we were told ds shouldn't be allowed to accelerate due to issues that were irrelevant (example: not quick with math facts) I restated the way in which his disability impacted that particular skill set, restated his areas of strength and ability and was steadfast in insisting he be placed appropriately for his strengths and receive his accommodations for his weaknesses. The staff at his previous school never really "got it"... but what turned out to be the strongest argument *for* placing him where he belonged according to his strengths was first, simply doing it, and second - and most convincing to teachers - his performance in those classes. DS' disability really hasn't held him back, as long as he's had access to his accommodations. I suppose the third thing that helped convince school staff is the thing that our US schools seem to be so hung up on - achievement testing. It's easy to score an "advanced" on our state tests, but once ds was in upper elementary school and middle school and started taking standardized testing outside of only the state testing, he had scores that were sky high and that's something that got noticed too.
If I was you, right now, I think you just have to ignore the comments. You've already got a plan in place for next year that the school agreed to, so ignore the comments from this years' teachers, support your ds in building up any skills you think he needs at home, and look forward to next year - he'll be fine!!!
Best wishes,
polarbear
