I was that librarian today and it was hard. I have two gifted children and if someone tells me their child is gifted, I believe them.
No, you're a far, far cry from "that" librarian, daytripper.

Your post belies a sensitivity and sense of nuance that was missing in our librarian. We received an openly scornful scowl, which was delivered with a note of schadenfreude as she shut down someone she believed to be a stereotypical pushy parent.
Thankfully, the library time incident is no big deal. We just won't do that activity. That librarian is only one member of an otherwise stellar group of children's librarians.