Hi Aimeebella,
Welcome!
In some ways you were lucky to reach your frustration point so quickly. Some gifted children are "gifted" in ways that let them figure out what the norms are, and mold their behavior to fit it - scary! Are you in a state with mandated gifted services? Are you active with the local homeschoolers? Have you talked to the local "tutoring and enrichment" centers? Is there a possibility of joining/starting a homeschool co-op in your area?
If you are interested in a gradeskip, have you read the Iowa Acceleration Scale Manual?
You mentioned testing. I'm not sure about the value of testing, since at home you can modify your curricula so easily, and the school only believe their own tests anyway. But if you decide to pursue it, I reccomend two ideas:
1) If you are going the IQ test route: Start with Deb Ruf's book: Losing our Minds, Gifted Children Left Behind. This will give you a rough idea of how picky you should be when looking for an independent IQ tester.
2) If you just want to see where she is in depth, for the purposes of homeschooling more effectivly, I reccomend contacting
http://www.nwea.org/assessments/map.asp and looking for a place where you can have your daughter take the MAP. Although this is an emerging test, not widely recognised, I like the idea of it, and the results are so much more useable than something like the Woodcok Johnson Achievment, which is the standard, but of very limited use.
Best Wishes,
Trinity
