Deacon girl- just ask. Seems like school won't be suprised given older sibling. My dh and I waffled for a long time trying to decide what to do. (Our ds6 is in k too.) after meeting with the neuropsychologist, we both know this is the right thing to do. I'm still nervous, because the testing hasn't been completed yet. However, I know the neuropsychologist will help us and ultimately ds. Advocating for our children is something we need to do. It is in the best interest of the kids. I will say that it has greatly helped me that my husband is very much in agreement with testing and everything now. Feel free to lean upon us here. Make sure you keep us posted about how things are going!