It's honestly a bit more complex than that. They want to schedule a home visit. When we stalled before, they stalled the *assessment* until we agreed to the referral to the treatment agency going in simultaneously. We are also concerned about the agency's association with child services, so we want to be very clear about our reasons and intentions -- and especially about the fact that we are not crazy, we have real, documentable reasons. We do not want to appear neglectful or unwilling to treat, since that could raise red flags which could eliminate our ability to choose.
They have done several illegal things, but we are in an awkward position because of their powers and our probable eventual need for their funding. It's a dumb situation, and we are dealing with people who are used to a situation very different from ours.
I found a better ref, but if anyone has anything, please do let me know, I'd still like to find something yet better than this!
thanks!
