It is not drugs, however, suggestions so far have been somewhat terrifying (ie: like a low-stim group for a stimulus-seeking child)

We DO NOT WISH to pursue treatment before the diagnosis. I'm just looking for a good reference to include int eh email so that we appear informed (we feel that we ARE informed).

The best reference I have right now is specifically in regards to harm caused by extraneous SLP at early ages. I'd like something more general, but will use it if my current searching/this post don't turn up more in time.

DS1: Hon, you already finished your homework
DS2: Quit it with the protesting already!