We are big Ellyn Satter fans in our household. I also really like
Katja Rowell's blog. My understanding is that doctors get less than a day in med school on nutrition. If the doctors are concerned about his eating, they should be referring him to a feeding specialist, not telling you to add butter.
I'm inclined to agree. I've been lucky to have fantastic doctors, but I really don't think they talk about nutrition enough (maybe because we don't have health concerns relating to it? I don't know).
My two are picky, although DS8 is better than DD10. She's, um... well... awful. What I do is make homemade snacks (cookies/muffins, etc) to put in their lunches. I load them with grains like quinoa, oats, wheat germ and flax, and throw in some chocolate chips for good measure. I also make protein shakes with whey isolate, banana, cocoa powder and vitamin D drops (you have to measure the protein though because too much is hard on their kidneys). I've tried steaming and pureeing veggies and mixing them into sauces, but DH can always tell (he's the worst one!!) sigh.
I don't know. It's hard. (They get a multi vitamin every day, lol) I'd love it if they would just eat whatever I give them, but no such luck.