Jtooit, just to add-- this may well be beyond the school's expertise. (Our district has a history of completely ignoring dyslexic and dysgraphic kids.) In your shoes, especially with the family history, I'd find a private neuropsych to do a comprehensive evaluation. Since you suspect a disability, the assessment ought to be covered by insurance; if not, there may be county or state funding available.
I agree with addressing it soon-- all this stuff takes time, but if there's a 2E issue, she is likely very frustrated at school. We framed testing to our DS as "everyone is going to try to make school fit you better" and indeed, knowing what we know has been very helpful in putting the right things into place.
DeeDee
