My DS9 has been designated gifted and shows many of the oversensitivities and has a history of anxiety. He has improved a lot since age 7 but is still battling a lot of emotion daily. Though otherwise he is a lovely happy lighthearted boy.
This morning's example. He wanted to join the school choir which has two practices - one during lunchtime and one early morning. We woke early this morning to get him to his first practice and spent 45 minutes outside the classroom agonizing over it and eventually not going in. I tried everything. I was firm "You should just go in", reassuring "it'll be fine - you can just try it today and decide how you feel about it" lighthearted - made jokes and made him smile but it all ended in tears. He didn't end up going and when the school day was about to start was in tears and begging to be taken home.
This is one of many episodes.
The other day a boy he didn't know made a somewhat neutral comment about him that he overheard. He was destroyed. Felt like everyone hated him and had trouble going to school for days. Though he went.
Another, a boy he struck out at (a rare occurence - he was being teased) TWO YEARS AGO made a recent comment to him about it and he was paralyzed with fear that he was going to tell on him. For days he wouldn't go to school.
This is extremely hard to deal with and I'm so sad watching him suffer.
There is a counsellor that might be right for him but I'm concerned that recommending counselling is going to make him feel worse.
Has anyone been down this path?
I would love to hear how anyone else has helped their child(ren) through this.
Thanks!
