It hasn't worked much for us because the people I can stand to butter up are the people who deserve it.
Heehee! That's exactly the problem I'm having. The very nice predecessor of the unhelpful person I'm dealing with now was so easy to butter.
I have no expectation of any help with classroom teachers. I don't know if it was here or elsewhere that I saw a comment to the effect of "a good teacher doesn't need you to tell them much about how to meet your kid's needs, and a bad teacher isn't capable of meeting those needs regardless of how much you tell them," but that has certainly been my experience, too.
