Hi UM
I am a little hesitant to respond because I will probably sound pretty negative! My DS went to the same pre K from 2.5 to 5.5. First year was good, second year ok, 3rd horrible. We did not realize how different he was and how bad the fit with the school became. DS had problems at your DS's age with both what they were doing and the social element. They so didn't understand him that they wanted him to have an aide to help negotiate the social situations - what we realized later was that the kids didn't understand what was talking about - they had no shared frame of reference. He wanted to talk about what he read and learned and they didn't even understand his vocab half the time! Plus he wanted them to perform in pretend games and they were willing to but their level of pretend was much less developed and deep. So he was always frustrated - he actually made a game up around tag - to explain why they were all running around screaming like banchees. He was not satisfied with a game where you just ran - but they were. He liked talking to the teachers and doing the worksheets even when he already knew the material he interestingly would never admit to being bored, which is good I guess. I knew it was a real problem when the teacher told me she was so happy he was engaging with the other kids and I asked him about playing with them and he said he had finished all the books in the room!!!!

I could go on and on but no one would want me to!!! There was more drama caused by some mean girl bullying and exclusion behavior - at 4!!! He can still tear up remembering some of that stuff that went on.

We had no other school options and didn't have the knowledge initially to ask for what he needed. He was our first - you have the benefit here of some hindsight after the situation with your daughter. But I really regret not finding something else for him. I think it is painful at four to spend a full day as my son did for 4 months pretty unhappy. I still feel fairly guilty over it - but more so because they didn't understand him, they didn't want to, and they were trying to shove my square peg into their standard round hole.

If the teacher will work with you, it's worth keeping him there but if she won't or can't and he is having social issues, you have to ask if its worth it.

DeHe