I feel some of your frustration about AR. Ds teacher had him leveled and does let him check out more books and go by himself; but it is my responsibility to get him to the library to take the AR tests. Why can't he do that during independent reading?? Also, I have been asking since beginning November to retake the leveling test, because his level has increased; yet she has still not followed through. (Btw, ds is the only kindergartener doing AR at our school.)
I would believe your dd telling you they are learning letters. That's what they are doing in ds class. I have continually asked why he needs to do this, but the teacher tells me that he is learning vocabulary from it- not.
Having a p/t conference Tuesday....
One other thought, can your dd bring books from home? My ds brings 5-8 books a day and is allowed to read them when he is done. (He is also using them to make friends with older kids on the bus- by reading outloud to them- lol.)