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My DDs health issues have made me seem agoraphobic (terrified of her stealing or being given food so we just stayed home). It didn't take many iterations of playground/park disaster for me to not want to leave the house... imagine cute toddler tries to steal fruit in the playground... Crazed mother (me) looks up from aspy eldest child and/or adhd middle child and sees toddler stalking stranger's picnic - comes running (and screaming) to prevent ingestion. Confused strangers say "it's fine, she can share the watermelon". I say "no thank you she can't eat any fruit.", they smile and say "ok, would she like a strawberry instead?". I stare mutely, wondering in which universe is that not a fruit? Most people know not to share nuts with toddlers but cannot comprehend fruit being dangerous. I just look like a raving looney as I say "Don't touch the fruit-(some)vegetable-gluten-dairy-soy-nuts-egg-corn-etc thing! It will make you sick! Here, have a chip..."