But, as far as what to say to the teacher, I would let your DD do the talking. I think it should make more of an impression if she tells him how she feels about the group projects - perhaps as a general thing rather than in the middle of one of them. I can see how she might not want to do that, but hopefully another student will give him the feedback.
Yes, I agree.
I may have been too harsh in my last message; it's true that some kids just don't have access (though the girl who was described also sounded uninterested).