Twinkletoes, my dd3 sounds a lot like your dd6.5. I have no advice but I will be watching this post. Granted my dd is younger, hence less mature but she takes me for granted, seldom listens to me, is undisciplinable ( if that is a word), is in her own production and the only way to enter her world is on her terms. But she is like that only with me and to a far lesser extent with her dad. She is an absolute angel at preschool.