My son is 2E because of a motor coordination disorder that wasn't diagnosed until he was nine. Even though his visual motor integration was at the level of a child two years younger and his handwriting was slow and it was difficult for him to write very much, he did not qualify for OT in our public school because he was not failing in anything and instead tested above grade level in everything at age 7. I couldn't see how this could be considered a learning disability when he didn't have trouble "learning" anything except dance routines.
My son has an invisible disability. He didn't have a problem telling people that he had hypotonia and that it caused difficulties with handwriting and cutting things with scissors. His problem was that adults just didn't understand even after he told them. They didn't even understand after I explained in more detail. My sister-in-law has a Phd and was a geology professor and I would assume that requires a high level of intelligence and even she didn't seem to understand. So we have just had to accept the fact that most people will not understand his disability and he will just have to deal with that and ignore those people who tell him he is not trying or that he is being lazy. He is actually able to accept this better than I can, because some of these people make me angry, especially closed-minded teachers.
I really appreciate the people who do take the time to understand and offer my son support and encouragement instead of focusing on his difficulties. It just seems like there are so few of those people where we live--a very competitive, sports obsessed small town where academics comes second to sports where you are a geek if you prefer to learn instead of watching sports.
