You are absolutely right, of course. At the moment, I am somewhat swayed by colleagues telling me that DS needs to be at one of these $20k - $25k a year private schools. The other problem is that if I send him, then I feel like I need to send his twin and I have another child with special needs. Anyhow, I would not consider sending him until middle school as that is the most common time for kids to transition to these schools. The kids who start in these pricey private schools in K or early elementary don't tend to be as bright as the ones who transition in for middle school