OK, you aren't going to like this, but I think it may need to be said... I am not sure why it is so, but it's clear that you are very invested in your child being gifted (remember, you turned up here asking whether he was gifted at 8mo) and honestly, it's never been really clear to me why you think he is.
He may be, but why not just relax and see how life goes? Unless I've missed something, which is possible, nothing you've said here really indicates that he isn't going to be well served by normal educational routes. Which is good!
So yeah, I think you may well be that mom - the one who would really be happier and her whole family better off if she could stop thinking so much about giftedness and enjoy her lovely children more.
