Yes, that vague wording would concern me. We had something similar last year as well as a "we're all in this together" attitude. Everything went well for a few months. When we would meet I would ask questions and they would explain what they were doing, how they were addressing things, why things were being done the way that they were, etc. My "spidey senses" would go off occasionally but I didn't want to rock the boat - I felt a cooperative relationship was in DD's best interest so I didn't push too hard on tightening up the language.
Then things changed. For some reason I have yet to figure out the principal decided to make things confrontational. The cooperation was gone, the belief that they were all working in DD's best interest was gone. And we had a weakly worded IEP to battle them with. We ended up hiring a consultant who went directly to the Director of Special Services. Even with the weakly worded IEP we were able to get a letter conceding that they had violated her IEP. Now that document is much more clearly worded. If there is any "consider" type of language I visit it whenever we meet - if it is not being done consistently or I believe that DD needs something in place I ask for it. It is now much more difficult for them to get me to agree to any kind of loose language.
So if you are comfortable that they are working in your DS's best interest and have a handle on his needs then go ahead and give it a try . Be prepared to be vigilant though and don't hesitate to call another meeting to change the IEP if you think "monitor" or "consider" isn't meeting his needs. Don't go in guns blazing and looking for a fight but be prepared to stand your ground if you need to. We now have so many services in place there is little need for these vague terms anymore. Once we got to the point of having the pysch and neuropsych attend an IEP meeting the district had basically backed themselves into a corner. It's no longer us chatting pleasantly and agreeing how best to proceed. They now have the experts weighing in on the details so they are forced to provide the higher level of service. Is it what I expected a year ago? No way. Has it been a pleasant experience getting here? No. But in the end I think that vigilante principal may have actually done DD a favor - she has much better level of service that she ever would have had with our prior relationship and vague IEP language.
You're doing a great job.
