I can so relate to this! Substitute DD for DS and I'm in the same situation. She will ATTEMPT to wipe, but that's only if I'm right there telling her to. Otherwise she doesn't even bother. I'm soooo tired of skid marked undies! She's perfectly capable, but it seems she just can't be bothered. Half the time she forgets to flush too :-( I'll be watching this post for ideas!