Thought I would give an update.  Aiden is so happy!  His Therapist and violin teacher have noticed the changes and are so impressed with how a small thing like real learning can make such a difference to his life.
He is teaching himself so many skills and things and is just so happy!  and my second son, Nathan, who has been home sort-of ill for the past 2 weeks is joining in and is also so much more confident and happier.
So it looks as though we are set to become a fully homeschooling family soon.
And I couldn't be happier!  My kids are so happy I wish I had just done this from the very beginning 
