@aculady - DS is the same was regarding eye contact. He *can* but it seems like an effort for him. If I don't prompt him to look at me, he will actively avoid looking at my face... especially if he is upset, or believes he's being lectured/punished/corrected. I could also "ditto" everything you said about the friends... DS appears to now have kids he plays with at recess, and sits with at lunch without any teasing or fighting. I've only heard 2 kids names (and one it was phrased like "so-and-so is being nice to me now!") and he's not been invited to any parties, playdates or anything outside school since kindergarten. The only kids he plays with outside of school are his cousins, and rarely the 4th grade boy who lives a couple of houses down.

My assumption on the whole asperger's thing with the neuropsych is that if the school accepts and asperger's or autism spectrum diagnosis the kids are automatically required to receive a whole list of services (as require by state law) - I can see how a cash-strapped school would want to push back on asperger's diagnoses specifically because it's such a borderline-type of call. I would imagine other parents, being aware of the issue with getting services through the school sought out a neuropsych.. and this one we are seeing just so happens to be the only one in the entire county!

@DeeDee
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They can put an informal behavior management plan ("building plan" or "intervention plan") into place while you are waiting on the neuropsych. You do not need to consent to the ED label in order to get this done.
This is so good to know!!! DH and I are both leery of the ED label and it following him through his school career.

@polarbear - We haven't met with the diagnostician who did the testing yet. She just forwarded her report to us. I will certainly ask her about the scatter when we get to meet with her. I wondered about the memory score myself. And I didn't figure my kid was off the charts or anything, it kind of made me laugh to hear how the school psych acted about the scores.. like 'omg! he's the smartest kid in the school probably.' From that I can tell his score (if we accept that K-ABC is a valid measure of g) has a rarity of about 1/600. Clearly he's a bright kid who learns fast, but he's not exactly one in a million here, either.

Thank you guys so much! I'm going to be reading the wrightslaw page quite a bit between now and the 17th!

~amy