Divergent thinker is a very good description of DS! Thankfully his scores have qualified him for the local full day gifted program. And Cricket2 I've also had to try and help him understand some of the worksheets he comes home with. The obvious simple answer isn't always what he sees. Like when the answer for a descriptive word for a picture ending in "G" is bug but he's confused because clearly its a spider or arachnid and "bug" doesn't even occur to him.
All of your answers have given me great ideas to follow up on. I will say I'm extremely lucky to be in such a wonderful school district. The gifted program director, his principal, his regular and special school district teachers and the school psychologist have been amazing. Not only do they call & email me regularly they all communicate to figure out what strategies are working for DS.
I really don't have anyone to take with me to the IEP unfortunately but finding resources like this forum have given me a lot more confidence in what I need to do as a parent.
Thank you ALL for your help.