My favorite quote from the article is:
"Rebuke a wise person and he will love you."
- R. Yossi bar Hanina
I read once that we have to explain to our children that for some people the urge to 'not be embarrassed' is stronger than the urge to 'learn something new, or correct a mistaken thought.' Our little ones are so amazed that adults and older kids don't want to have their errors explained to them - I think because they expect the best from everyone, at least for a while.
Acs - sounds like you and your friend have a wonderful thing going! I remember learning that although I was taught that if a person is quiet and shy one helps them feel at home by sharing something personal enought that they will feel safe enought to speak, that this sure didn't work with folks who are taught that 'if someone is talking, they must want to, so let them!' Boy did I laught and be pleased when I unraveled that one. One of my best friends became so because I was 'trying to help her feel at home, by talking,' and she was terrified (of me) and too polite to say so. I chattered on and on until I won her over, but I turn red thinking about it now!
Grins,
Grinity
