I suppose I knew this before I ever read the article, because DD7 has had a phase in the last couple years where she falls apart in occasional challenge situations, and severely doubts her own abilities. Not coincidentally, it began about when the school hung the "gifted" label on her.
DW and I try to praise DD for talent AND effort. With this article in mind, I decided last night to point out how achievement equals talent plus effort, and how talent without effort can accomplish nothing. Her response was "I know..." and an accompanying eye-roll, so I guess we're getting through.
I had the same conversation with my DS9 last night. I got the very same response.
There is no be all end all. It is a balancing act at best.
Sports and group activities of all kinds help us. It equals the playing field IMO.
I have found in the last couple years my son can deal with things better if I am not in the mix. Not that he doesn't struggle at certain things but he picks himself back up on his own. Basketball and baseball are very competitive in our area and you cannot move up without a good bit of effort--and well, talent.
He seems to get it but I see the issues.
