I'm curious. Dd13 is, admittedly, turning into a teenager in terms of her attitude

so I don't know how much of this is her or something else. I bugged her to attend a freshman GT lunch that her school had today. As has been the case in most, if not all, schools she has attended, she heard at this meeting that about 16% of the kids in her grade have a GT identification. I believe that the purpose of this meeting was to give the GT kids a chance to meet one another and find like minds/souls.
Dd doesn't seem to feel like she is any more likely to meet kids who are "like her" in her accelerated/pre-AP classes or amongst the kids with the GT identifications than she is in non-accelerated classes, or among the non-identified kids. She came home totally irritated (my teen again) that I had "made" her go to this meeting and assured me that the majority of the kids weren't even of average intelligence. I'm sure that she's exaggerating there, but I am wondering...
Do any of your kids feel like GT classes, etc. are better places to find like souls than the regular classes? Dd seems to feel like the kids who are GT ided are no more likely to be gifted than others. She also feels like the kids who are different in the way she is (probably HG types) are often not identified b/c they aren't the compliant hand raising types (although she, herself, is a good student b/c she knows that she needs the grades for her college aspirations and has a lot of direction in that regard).
If not through GT stuff at the school or AP classes, where is one to find the like souls in a big high school, then?