Thanks y'all! I am much better today. I love my friend/doc and after thinking about it, I think 2 things are going on. One, she is not a mom. She hasn't had kids yet and really can't imagine life with kids, how being a mom feels, and how I changes things. It's hard to understand how agonizing decisions each decision is and how you always second guess yourself as a parent if you aren't one.
2, I think it is just the common misconceptions about homeschooling also at ay here coupled with the lack of understanding of hg/pg kids. For a small place we actually have a lot of community programs dd is involved in and have an active group of homeschooler ( probably helps that Alaska gives you quite a bit of money for homeschooling).
She's coming over Sunday to the house and I think I am just going to tell her in a very nice way how I took her comments (seconding guessing the decisions dh and I have agonized over) and explain that in being a parent you always will do it is diffcult for you to hear a remark that implies you haven't. I feel like I need to at least sort out to agree to disagree with her as she is the doc dd sees as well. And I don't want dd picking up on her feelings and getting the impression that their is anything wrong with the way she is.
Again, thanks!
Ps typed on my phone so their may be typos! Lol
