This bit reminds me of my DD when she was younger, so I thought I'd try to reassure you a little. We got a lot of very positive comments about DD and I wasn't sure at all what people were seeing, apparently something very different from the way she was at home! But, over time she's grown into those comments (which we still get) and become an interesting and unusual teen. So, my 2cents is just to accept that people are seeing something that isn't apparent at home yet but perhaps will be in the future.
Also, I found it interesting that your DS was given some of the WISC Integrated subtests. I haven't seen those mentioned much here, I've looked before because my son was given one of the subtests and I am still unsure what the score means in his case. Did the psychologist say much about why those subtests were given and what was learned from them? It looks like the scores were similar to the corresponding subtests on the WISC itself. (My DS had about a 4 SD difference between the WISC-IV subtest and the integrated version, and I didn't get much explanation of why.)
I don't really know why the psych gave him those subtests. What WISC subtests do they correspond to?
It might be because of a specific problem I said my son had one day that led me to seek testing for him.
His math teacher asked him to take 10 2-digit numbers and order them from least to greatest. The numbers were on worksheet and he had to list them in order on a different piece of paper, and he had what seemed to me a great deal of difficulty performing this extremely simple task.
It might be that my expectations of him, though, are very high. And what he is capable of doing in many cases, is just plain average 4th grade work. The integrated subtest scores all caem out in the solid average range I think.
