Well, fwiw, we have a very similar ds - similar in terms of IQ scores, but tends more to anxiety than depression. DS was also in an elementary school that didn't accelerate or meet ds' academic abilities so we chose to supplement outside and focus on giving him opportunities to follow his own lead on interests and creative thinking etc (outside of school). We didn't realize how bored ds was at school until he was in 5th grade and had developed a really negative attitude and hopeless attitude about school, and given that, I think in hindsight we would have chosen to change his school at a much earlier age. We were hesitant to make the change when he was younger simply because he didn't want to and he had friends at his school - he is a semi-shy kid who didn't have a wide circle of friends and we worried a lot about him struggling with finding new friends and losing contact with his old friends whom he'd been with since kindergarten.
He asked to switch school this year (6th grade)because of the boredom factor, and he's now in a private school with a higher level of general overall academic challenge plus teachers willing to differentiate, and he's soooo so much happier - and in that happier place, he's had a much easier time finding friends.
I've never heard of Russian Math - that sounds interesting!
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