I type on the iPhone and it took me a while to realize if you tap a word to select it and pull the select box upwards it works like a scroll. It took me even longer to realize if I typed in my notepad i had more room to work with than the little answer box in the forums.
How frightening it must be for your child, for you to have watched that happening. I have a thought about the respect. I always tell my kid "don't be rude". I hope it will work. You can almost divide respect into "to admire" and "to be polite to."
Mine was born able to control his own head, neck, and eyes too. He focused on the face of whoever was holding and talking to him in the birthing room. My daughter, too, came out very different. She was more of a navel-gazer, more interested in figuring out herself before checking out all the action. I wondered while I was pregnant if he was smarter than normal or not, thinking if he was it would change his parenting needs. I think you and I will have to look after the kiddo's education ourselves, using the schools as long as they make the kids HAPPY, not every day, of course. A good rule of thumb is, are you here to help or are you here to hinder me? If you're only here to hinder me then what do I need you in my life for. These are just thoughts. My kid doesn't start school until next year.