Hi Artsmartmom,
It's frustrating to try and make one's child fit into any 'round hole' at all. I wish that all schools had multiple gifted offerings because gifted kids come in all kinds of shapes and sizes and ALL kids deserve to be taught at their readiness level, even if that varies widely from subject to subject.
That said, then there is reality.
So if you are going to devote a portion of her percious childhood to peg fitting, I think it should be fun and build closeness between her and human, you or her dad or another family member if possible.
I've recently read 'How Your Child Learns Best: Brain-Friendly Strategies You can Use to Ignite...' by Judy Willis
hoping to learn some Neuorscience. Well, that didn't happen, but I was suprised to see that Willis's approach seems a very reasonalbe outline of how to add value to your child's engagement with learning.
It was also eye-opening in that it's pitched to a wide variety of children, and it was interesting to get a picture of what working with ND kids might be like. She does 'get' gifted kids though and has asides throughout the book specificially for academically advanced kids.
So that's one way to go.
Love and More Love,
Grinity