Dear jennlarra - reading your post was so incredibly similar to what we are going through with our son. He is currently in 11th grade in a public school and he is having a difficult time due to the stress he puts himself under. We are considering putting him in a private school and have been looking at some boarding schools - but we too cannot find a good fit for a gifted child with extreme perfectionist tendencies. We consulted a highly regarded education consultant and she was no help - and the fact that private day schools and boarding schools are approx $50k a year - which blows all of our savings we've been trying to accumulate for college for our kids. We are at a loss of what to do and are looking at home schooling, but we are not sure that is the right answer either. If you have come up with a good solution for your son, we would be interested in hearing more. Thank you.