Also, she cries just about every single time when she wakes up. She wakes up from naps and in the morning wailing. Does this mean she is still tired and wants to sleep more? I try to nurse her back to sleep, but it rarely works once she is up.
DS1 used to do this all the time. Once I went to visit a friend and her DS woke from a nap (quietly) and I said "Doesn't he cry when he wakes up?" When she and all the other mums said no I was totally baffled. I mumbled "but how do you know they are awake?"
I liked No Cry Sleep Solution because it seemed to me to be a middle ground that let me try to improve things without CIO that I didn't want to do and really didn't think would work with my DS's personality.
If a schedule isn't you, mabe a rhythm is better. For example we always do the same thing in the same order to get ready for bed, but we don't aslways start at the same time, and the bath might be a quick rinse or a long soak with toys, dependin how tired we all are.
