I'm not looking for an IQ soul mate or anything, just some kids that will "get" him.
I am starting to realize that although the setting matters - focusing on special interest is a great suggestion - sometimes its just the particular group of kids. DS 5 in one pre-k was treated as an oddity by a bunch of kids which set the tone for him and by the end was pretty miserable about the friend situation. Now in camp (pre-k during the summer) he is having an awesome time, reports having friends, and does not feel odd. Even though he is as different from them as he was from his pre-k. These kids are more open to him and his interests, and the counselors are helping him with his interactions so that he enjoys them even though they aren't necessarily intellectual peers.
LOG matters - but sometimes it can just have been a bad fit or mix of kids!
Hang in there and keep looking. In May I felt doomed and overprotective. Now I am optimistic and hopeful. Sort of
DeHe
