Thank you for asking this question. Your family is so very similar to mine that it is eerie! We only have two children but DD8 is HG+/2e and toddler is same as yours. DH is also same as yours and I always wondered a little about ADD for myself as well (but I cope with it well). He has brought up the subject of pursuing testing for himself recently. I, too, had assumed it would not involve an IQ test? He may go for that, although his curiosity might get the better of him.
I coped (not well, but adequately) until the 3rd kid (HG? ADHD? extreme psychomotor OE)--that was when I finally managed to get myself diagnosed! (after showing up on the wrong day for the initial appt. lol!)
