Can you share more information? Did school test him or was it a private tester? Who made the recommendations? School? What does school suggest? Are they offering an IEP or a 504?
DS9 (third grade) has always had poor handwriting, which his teachers have dismissed as "develpmental", saying that he would outgrow it. When I say he has poor handwriting, I mean he forms his letters from the bottom up, reverses letters, does not understand the concept of what parts of letters go above or below the line on the paper, writes some letters big, some small, mispells words, leaves words half written, and cannot organize his thoughts on paper.
Last summer, I also noted that he could not tie his shoes or button buttons, so I took him for an OT eval. He came away with a diagnosis of sensory processing disorder with tactile oversensitivities which delayed his fine motor skills. Well, after a year of OT, we are seeing some improvement in his writing mechanics...I can read what he writes if he is writing anything that does not require any thought, but as soon as he has to think AND write, everything falls apart.
The school is being very cooperative. We are working on a 504 for next year. We already have one for this year for accomodations regarding his need for movement that comes with his SPD (and newly diagnosed ADHD). Luckily, the school is starting a netbook program next year that will require all 5th graders to have netbooks and make it optional for 3rd and 4th graders. The principal has given all of the teachers a directive that the vast majority of work has to be able to be done on the netbooks (although they will not abandon handwriting altogether). This will help tremendously, since DS will not be the only person using a netbook. I am very skeptical of how well VR would work in the school setting, but think it may be helpful at home for long writing assignments.
We just finished a psycho-educational evaluation (private tester) and the psychologist diagnosed the DWE based on writing samples that he did for her and work that I brought in from his writing journal at school. She made the recommendations for keyboarding and VR.
