My heart goes out to you. Find a school to create a special educational plan 4 or more grades ahead and keeps your DD with agemates. Sure. And tomorrow Ill create an end to poverty and on Monday world peace will be solved.
Did the tester offer to call the Gifted Coordinator? Oh I didn't think so. I can't bear it when people with the mantle of athority give people very difficult tasks and then act as though it is the parents fault if they don't comply.
I think that it is time to call Aimee Yermish and ask the tester to send all the results to AY. Aimee can do a chart review and help you figure out some next steps.
I think that your tester hasn't seen a child like DD before and thinks you are some kind of Tiger Mom. Shame on the tester that they can't tell the difference.
For some kids that just plain isn't an answer during the elementary school years, and mine was one of them. The best thing anyone told me was:"Some of the hardest to raise kids become some of the coolest Adults."
I had to repeat this to myself over and over while DS was in Elementary school.
Pout and more pout
Grimity