Thanks for directing me to this site long ago, Grinity. I know I thanked you before, but just wanted to say it again. I felt so isolated with this issue before coming here.
Ah Twinkly Happy Mother's day to you!
I hope the tester is willing to get in close with the school and explain the situation to them. It may be that the 3rd grade gifted program is the perfect place for your DD.
It is hard to know what a school will do with an outlier child, so look for a good escape clause! Even if the school can provide academics at our dd's level, what kind of peer group will they provide? The harder question is: What kinds of peer groups will work best with your little wild pony?
Peace,
Grinity