Ask your pediatrician for a referral to an Occupational Therapist who is knowledgeable about sensory integration. If it is bothering her enough that she would rather miss out on favored activities than tolerate the discomfort, then it is not something that counseling is going to fix without also addressing the sensory processing component. In my experience, addressing the sensory processing component first so that the sensations are not so bothersome would make a lot more sense than getting counseling aimed at trying to develop coping strategies for dealing with constant irritation.
