Hi Nadia,
Just a little bit different perspective. I do agree that ultimately you will prob. have to be the one to define what you want for your son and ask for it. But there is nothing wrong with going into this first meeting and viewing it as a relationship building and info gathering session. You can ask her what various options are available, and when the school is likely to use them. You can ask what has been done in the past, what is in place, etc. You can ask for information on curriculum. And you can (and should) ask about who the decision makers are and what criteria are in place in terms of things like full grade skips, subject acceleration, GT programs, etc.
Ask how they will decide what the appropriate options are for your child.
And be gracious and open and listen . That sets the stage for later meetings.
And honestly, after all that, I would start looking at all the info I could find to confirm that what you learned is correct. To the extent she suggested to you what they are planning for your child, think about whether it is makes sense to you. Then plan to go in with your revisions to the plan, and evidence to back you up.
Good luck and keep us posted.
Cat
