Minnie and Grinity, I agree, dd hates it when people talk down to her or over her head directly to us. We figured out very early that explaining rules, offering choices, and treating her like the individual that she is work much better, but we get blamed for not teaching her to just do what she's told. We, of course, would very much prefer that, but "do it because I say so" does not work. That, to me, is as useful as the advice "put her to bed early" I get when I complain that she's up until 1 am making lists of antiparticles, or singing, jumping, or tumbling (she gets enough sleep, just wakes up at noon). Now that I think about it, it's always the stricter environments we have problems in and with people who take life too seriously, LOL.
