Kerry - I'm glad that the school is starting to see your DD's abilities. And go dad!
I see one of your concerns is that DD is the only one in the class getting the high scores. Is there any possibility that she could join the next grade for a couple of subjects? Or any possibility that she's across-the-board ahead and might do better accelerating all the way into 4th? Acceleration, either by subject or grade, can sometimes be an easy way to fix the mismatch problem. Any chance there are math/reading classes in 4th at the same time as your DD's 3rd grade class?
The Iowa Acceleration Scale is a great tool to determine whether acceleration (grade or subject) would be a good fit:
Iowa Acceleration Scale Since the school has a FT gifted program, it might have these forms.
