Twinkletoes, my feeling is, even if she's happy as a clam, if her behavior's wearing out dedicated parents and hurting other people's feelings, it should be worked on, and having help in this is better than not.

Some people feel this approach is pathologizing children with whom nothing is seriously wrong; but taking this route has vastly improved the quality of our DS's life and ours.

YMMV.
DeeDee