doctorbighands, you've gotten a lot of advice already, and it's all stuff I would recommend. I have a couple more suggestions. If she is deliberately throwing a tantrum then she is old enough to learn the word 'no'. The second suggestion, buy yourself some soundblocking ear muffs like Bose sells. When I was a young mother our first learned how to throw ear splitting, pound the floor tantrums. I couldn't stand it! The quicker I gave in to stop it, the more he did it. I realized quickly how bad of an idea that was, so one day I grabbed my husbands ear protection muffs that came with the chain saw. When our son saw his tantrums no longer bothered me, he quit, and he quit almost immediately. So if your child is not rewarded by throwing a tantrum, she'll probably quit.
