I feel your pain. Even teachers who try to work with our kids still don't get the behavior they are seeing. Take this lovely email I got today for example:

"We just wanted to let you know that DD needs to be reminded constantly during the school day that she is not the teacher in charge. She has a tendency to try to take over the classroom and needs to be reminded that she is the student. She will often get up and do what she wants instead of asking permission first. We wanted to ask you to speak to her about the importance of raising her hand and asking permission from a teacher."

Gee, I wonder why she does that? Is she bored? Are you going too slow. Is there something far more interesting than the spelling words she has been able to spell since she was 3?