Hi JamieB,
Have to gone the 'crying in the principle's office route?' Sounds like you are ready...
Something about your child's behavior is making you feel bad/worried/sad/frustrated. Put everything that's bothering your into your child's social and emotional needs - it's the only language that the school understands.
Go back and tell the story from this point of view, make them feel the child's suffering. (You and I know what this suffering is like, and assume everyone else get it too, but they don't. Help them.)
Then state that you don't know what the answer is - but that things can't go on the way they are now. Request, in writting (not email) an immediate trial in the first grade gifted program as a diagnosic to see if that shows what his problem is. Offer to sign a 'waiver' freeing the school for any bad outcomes from a gradeskip. Bring in a few pages that show what your son is doing now - they should be stuff that correlates with things that are learned in school. It may be that the 2nd grade gifted program would be a better fit. Don't get caught up in the 'what about next year?' issue - right now you just have to try and find out what works and cross that bridge when you come to it.
((Hugs))
Grinity
