If she knows what size she wears, how about give her a shopping basket. Tell her to buy X number of things and you'll be waiting at the end of aisle when she is finished. Then walk away. All the decisions are hers....no checking w/ you if she likes something. She's fighting for control. I'd decide in what areas you are OK w/ her having control. She might then more agreeable in the areas you won't compromise on.

and great, big, cyberhugs for you.