I can't help but post on this thread... when I was a little girl I was in Brownies and discovered that (though I liked the uniform) it was very difficult, even painful, for me to be part of a group. I can vividly remember going home and telling my puzzled mother that I could not continue with Brownies because the "group think" made me so acutely uncomfortable. I was 6, and this difficulty has persisted all my life.

Anyway, my experience in not really relevant to this discussion... though I sometimes think I am projecting this "inability to join" onto my ds6-- who might well love scouts!